Monday, July 30, 2012

Fated Mates?

Climbing Man

I grew up watching Disney movies. While I never really got the whole ‘Wait in your tower for rescue’ heroines, I loved the knights in shining armor.

As I grew older and became a teenager, romance novels became my inspiration for love. Slowly, heroines changed from the helpless princess to the woman who kicks butt in her own right. And still, both the hero and heroine just knew when they’d found their person in the world to love.

Recently I’ve seen discussions about how some romance authors write their stories, chalking up this one-person-in-the-world-I-can-love to Fate. Some people love the idea, some don’t.

Personally, I don’t see the difference, whether an author comes right out and calls it Fate, or not. All romance novels, all love stories, are about two people finding each other. These two people are right for one another, and no one else in the world.

And personally, I write love stories saying straight out its Fate.


Because in the real world, one can never be sure if their relationship is going to last or not. It takes both people and a lot of hard work. I love slipping into my fictional worlds and knowing, to the bottom of my heart, that the two characters I just lived with through their struggle now have their Happily Ever After.

Guess there’s some things those Disney movies showed me that just won’t let go.

Q4U: What’s your opinion on Fated mates?


  1. Hi, Amber. Interesting question. I absolutely believe in fated mates or soul mates. It doesn't mean that once you find each other there won't be bumps in the road, but it does mean it's worth the work involved in building a long-lived relationship.

  2. Hmm- good food for thought. But now that you've gotten me thinking about it, I realize I'm not a big "fated mates" fan. I want to see them fight to get together, and too many times (at least in my opnion) the issue is simpy one or both admiting they must be together.I guess I don't like fate! LOL! But great blog!

  3. Hi Dawn,
    The bumps make the relationship worth it ;)

  4. Hey Marie,
    I like having both :) Fate may bring two people together, but they still need to get over their issues, LOL. Thanks.

  5. Hi Amber,
    I guess I never really thought about it much, but after your post, I'd have to say I do like the fated relationships. When I close a book, I like the assurance that in their fictional world, the couple will always remain together - for better or worse. There's too much reality that's jaded my way of thinking, and I don't want to imagine the characters could one day separate.
    Thanks for the thoughts! :)